1. Dress to Impress... yourself
How you look affects how you feel. If you wear old, scruffy and unflattering clothes, you will not be impressed with your appearance; you, in some cases may hate the way you look. Feeling down about how you look can only lead to you feeling emotionally negative about yourself.
Imagine that you have had a make over and a great hair cut and style. You go out and buy new, beautiful and well fitted clothes that suit your figure. You get dressed and stand in front of the mirror seeing this beautiful version of yourself, how do you feel about the way you look now? If you look good, you will feel good because if you dress to impress yourself, you will feel confident, you feel beautiful and you will like yourself more. And when you like yourself, other people will naturally like you too.
2. Change the Mind, Change the Body
Your mind and body work as one. A lady walked in to my office the other day with her head hanging down, when asked what was wrong she said "I'm feeling down" Body movements and facial expressions are designed to trigger emotions, as your mussels move they trigger electrons in your mind that make you feel surprised, sad, happy, scared or any of the other emotional responses that we have hardwired in our mind. Depressed people's body language will often include; slumped shoulders, lethargic movements and head lowered down - looking towards the floor.
What is interesting is if you physically stand up, hold you head up high, make eye contact with others, you will automatically feel more confident - this is instantaneous. Even more important if you force yourself to laugh for 10 minutes everyday you will start to feel happy without knowing why.
3. The Devil in Your Head
Many people who are depressed are so because they give themselves negative self talk on a daily basis "you fail.." "Everyone will laugh at you.." this voice is limiting your expectations, a easy to use technique is to imagine that you can turn the voice into a shape. Slowly move the shape down your body, from your head to your shoulder, from your shoulder to your arm, down your arm and onto your palm. Imagine the shape falling from your palm onto your leg, down your leg onto your foot and watch the shape fall off your foot, most people at this stage get the urge to kick the shape away. For this technique to work you have to imagine seeing the shape move away, down your body. Once the shape has been kicked away ask yourself how do I feel about the voice now, and 9/10 off you will say the voice doesn't effect you anymore.
4. Want It Now and Never Get It
You hear these statements on a regular basis "I want to be a millionaire" "I want a big house" "I want to marry a beauty Man" "I want to double my salary" "I want to be happy." It is good to set yourself goals, but you have to remember that you have to work to achieve these goals. You will have good and bad days, and I would add successful people learn from their 'bad' days. Unsuccessful people want their goal now and are often unwilling to work for it. When they hit a barrier they simple give up, using this barrier as an excuse to fail.
To achieve your big goals start by chunking them down into small manageable goals - if you want to be a millionaire, the first goal should be to plan how you will make money, your second goal may be research business ideas/money making strategies, your third goal as an example maybe to research how successful millionaires became successful. As you achieve your small goals your big goals will fall into place naturally, it is also good to plan for the 'bad' days and have a strategy to deal with these not so good days.
5. Me, Me, Me
Do you always focus on yourself? Many unhappy people go into situations looking at what they can get out of it? They rarely think about completing selfless acts, helping others for free and making a contribution to others, when there is nothing in it for them. But there missing out on the big secret, because the more you help others, contributing through volunteering, offering spare change to a stranger in the supermarket who has gone over their predicted bill and has no spare change or even the old clich of helping some elderly stranger cross the road, the more you will feel good about yourself. Yes that's right when you help people unselfishly you will feel good about yourself, boosting your self esteem and image, increasing positively the view you hold of yourself.
There are many ways to help you feel more positive, to boost your self esteem and to give you the confidence to enjoy your life. These 5 simple techniques will help you get started, helping you to take control and to do something positive with your life.
Image these 5 techniques really helped you, and you became the best you could be, you achieved your goals and became successful. Imagine you were this successful version of yourself; where are you, what do you do, how do you act, who are your friends, where do you live, how much money do you have in the bank, are you married, a parent, a traveler, a business person? Imagine that this successful version of you, could look back and give the you now some advice, what advice would you give yourself?
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